Let’s face it, we all want to have stronger orgasms that will blow our minds into smithereens, every time we get intimate with our partner or masturbate. But this isn’t easy.
If you haven’t had a strong orgasm for a long time, you may start thinking that only you have this problem. But that is far away from the truth. A recent study found that 50 percent of women do not climax when they have sex with their partner. The study also pointed out that 9 percent of women haven’t ever had an orgasm.
If you fall among the category of women who hardly climax or who find it difficult to get strong orgasms, this article is for you. Read on to learn some tips that will help you turn things around.
What exactly is an orgasm?
The NHS defines orgasm as a strong or intense pleasure that occurs during intercourse or other sexual activities.
Types of orgasm
Many women have the notion that all orgasms are the same. But sex experts have pointed out that that isn’t completely true.
Sex experts have buttressed that stimulating different parts of the body can result in orgasm. Below is an overview of the different types of orgasms.
- Anal orgasm
- Nipple orgasm
- Blended orgasm
- Cervical orgasm
- Clitoral orgasm
- G-spot orgasm
- Viginal orgasm
5 ways to get stronger orgasms
Focusing on the clitoris is a sure-fire way to get stronger orgasms
Research has shown that 36 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to climax.
So if penetration alone can’t make you orgasm, you should consider pleasuring your clitoris during intercourse.
Jennifer Wider, a reputable sex expert, shed light on two ways to do this. The first way is by trying out sex positions that can potentially stimulate the clitoris. A good example of these positions is rider-on-top. The second way is to stick to the sex positions you are comfortable with but add clitoral stimulation to the action. You can choose to use your hands or a sex toy.
Tune out your other senses
If you are really serious about hitting your orgasm quota, you should be open to trying out new things and stepping out of your comfort zone.
One thing you could try is tuning out some of your senses. You can do this by using noise-canceling headphones, turning off the light, and wearing a blindfold when you are intimate with your partner.
When you tune out some of your senses (sight and sound) your other senses are going to become heightened. Even more, you will be more present.
Make sure you have a discussion with your partner before wearing a blindfold or a headphone during intercourse so that he doesn’t think that you are weird.
Get stronger orgasms by exploring your fantasies
The reason why you haven’t been having stronger orgasms may be because you haven’t really explored your deep fantasies.
So instead of doing what you have been doing all this while, you should discuss your fantasies with your partner and play it out together.
Doing this won’t only help you reduce stress and anxiety, but may also help you experience new sensations and have a strong climax.
You can also choose to play your fantasies in your head while having sex with your partner. Note that you have the freedom to fantasize about someone who isn’t your partner during intercourse. It will be wise if you don’t tell your partner about it.
Regardless of the sexual act you are into you should consider using lube. Using lube during intercourse can reduce friction and increase stimulation. Using lube can also make it easier for you and your partner to try out different sex positions and techniques.
If you are into anal play, it is critical that you start using lube. Don’t forget that the anus does not produce any lubricant.
Note that lube can make a huge difference during nipple play. So always apply a small amount of lube to your nipple before stimulating it.
Sex toys can open you to new sensations and help you achieve stronger orgasms
Sex toys are easy to use and can stimulate all your sensitive areas. They are available in different sizes and do a better job than your hands. Some sex toys can stimulate two areas simultaneously. A rabbit vibrator, for example, can pleasure your vagina and clit at the same time.
Applying the tips discussed in this article will go a long way in helping you achieve a stronger orgasm. While it is good to be open-minded, it is wise that you first discuss with your partner before trying out new things.