Do you feel like your sex life isn’t as exciting as it used to be? If yes, you are not alone. A study conducted a while back shows that sexual satisfaction slowly starts reducing after the first year of a relationship.
The good news is that there are easy ways to turn things around.
Jenni Skyler, a sex therapist, pointed out that the first step to adding excitement to a relationship (sex life) is to improve communication. So make set aside time to tell your partner about the things you could improve. Here is an example of something you could say,” Hey, I was thinking about how exciting it will be to try a sex toy. What do you think” – Then both of you will agree.
If you need some help figuring out how to keep things interesting, look no further. This article sheds light on some simple strategies to bring excitement and pleasure back to your relationship.
Explore new sex positions
Step out of your comfort zone and try out different penetration techniques.
As you explore different intimate positions, you will find out that some offer freedom for deeper penetration. Wendasha Jenkins Hall, a sex expert, suggests starting with pegging, as it is safe, pleasurable, and perfect for exploring your boundaries.
Communication is essential when trying a new position. Always ask if your partner is comfortable before proceeding.
And remember that can change a lot more than your penetration position. You can heat things by trying different oral sex positions.
Make your sex life fun by embracing Adult toys
Many men are skeptical about using sex toys with their partners because they believe that using any stimulating device means that they aren’t man enough. But that isn’t the truth. Studies have shown that couples who use sex toys are usually more sexually satisfied.
As you likely know, sex toys come in different shapes and sizes. So before making a final decision, you should consider the pleasure needs of you and your partner.
Create a suitable atmosphere
To have a pleasurable sexual experience, you and your partner have to be in a relaxed physical and mental state. The more comfortable you are, the easier it will be for you to have a great time in the bedroom. A recent study backs this up. The study shows that couples who take time to prepare the area they will have sex are usually more sexually satisfied.
Below are a few things you can do to set the mood.
Clean up your bedroom
Wear something sexy
Play a soothing music
Dim the light (Feel free to use scented candles)
Bring wine or food to the bedroom.
Have sex outside your bedroom
Having sex in different parts of your home and even outside your home is an excellent way to keep things interesting. If having sex in public has been your long-term fantasy, you should try it out.
Wendasha Jenkins Hall says, “having sex in public is the desire of many couples because there is a thrill and possibility of getting caught.”
Be careful when having sex in public, as some regions have laws on public indecency. To reduce the odds of getting caught, you should go to secluded areas free from prying eyes.
Talk to a sex therapist to get your sex life back on track
If you feel stuck or cannot turn things around, you should consider seeing a reputable sex therapist.
Many couples believe that sex therapists should only be visited when there is a problem. But that isn’t true. You see, sex therapists can help educate couples on building confidence and improving performance.
Be sure that the sex therapist you choose is certified and has a good reputation.
Spice up your sex life by exploring new locations
Sometimes, having sex in a different location is all it takes to spice things up. If having sex in other parts of your home isn’t an option because you have kids, you should consider checking into a hotel. You can make arrangements for someone to watch your kid while you are there.
Plan your sexual encounters
It is always a good idea to plan when you will be intimate with your partner. Choosing a day or a time to have sex will give you and your lover something to look forward to. And if you and your partner commit to the day and time you have set consistently, your sex life will improve.
A survey conducted a while back found that couples who had sex at least once weekly were happier and more sexually satisfied than those who didn’t.
Spicing up your sex life is a surefire way to strengthen your relationship. Trying out new sex positions and toys can help you and your partner achieve immense stimulation and pleasure.
Remember that creating a romantic atmosphere can make it easier for you and your partner to have a great time. And if, after your best efforts, you aren’t able to revamp your sex life, you should consider seeing a sex therapist.